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Self esteem and assertiveness

admin — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 10:16:06 +0000

Self esteem and assertiveness

So many people these days want to improve their self esteem but don’t know where to start. Should they dig back into their childhood? Or should they try to forget about the past and keep repeating affirmations? Is it necessary to be in therapy for years in order to get yourself sorted out? Amongst all this confusion you will find my course Self Esteem Unlocked a plain and straightforward guide to developing your self esteem in steady easy steps. It is the fruit of forty years of studying self esteem and is written in plain and simple language.

From my experience of working with people from all walks of life, it is plain that people long for the contentment that comes from good self esteem; they just don’t know how to go about it.

Assertiveness and good self esteem go hand in hand together. If you show assertive behaviour in the way you relate to people this is usually a sign that your self esteem is in good shape. If however you find that you are often passive, depressed, fearful, cowed, easily manipulated and dominated, cringing, this may be an indication that your self esteem is low. Also if you are prone to uncontrolled anger, tend to dominate or bully people, have rigid body language you may also have low self esteem that you are trying to conceal by blustering and bullying behaviour.

Self Esteem Unlocked will take you by the hand and lead you through the steps you need to take to free yourself from your low self esteem. This golden guide will be by your side – not just for a few days – not just for a few months – not even for a few years – - but for life.

Notes

Assertiveness is a dirty word.

If you are working your way up the ladder you will want to learn how to be confident with anyone from any background.

How negative belief systems in families can affect your self esteem without you even being aware of it.

admin — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 10:52:52 +0000

How negative belief systems in families can affect your self esteem without you even being aware of it.

Since the release of my course Self Esteem Unlocked a lot of people have expressed interest in the idea of hidden belief systems that hold you back and stop you from achieving your full potential.

A lot of readers have emailed asking about family belief systems, for example, the things which family members say about their abilities and the status of the family. Often they are used to define your family’s place in the road where you live and in society in general and to explain and reinforce why certain things are done or not done in the family.

Where the whole family suffers from low self esteem you may hear excuses or comfortable family jokes that are used to explain away a lack of achievement such as ‘you won’t find any eggheads in this family; not like So-and-So down the road: just because their eldest went to university they think they are better than everyone else.’

Such things can be passed down from generation to generation; a father struggles to cope with DIY and is constantly nagged and criticised by his wife. Years later their son may be surprised to discover that he is in a very similar situation. Without knowing it he has followed the unwritten family script that says ‘I am no good at DIY and my wife is ashamed of my lack of ability and criticises me for it.’

The good news is that you do not have to be held back by these restrictions. The first step is to see what you are dealing with. It is useful to sound out other members of the family that you know you can trust to be discreet and ask them their opinion. People love to be asked for their advice and you will often unearth some shrewd insights.

An elderly aunt of mine described the men folk on my mother’s side of the family as ‘cautious, reserved individuals who like nothing more than to go home after work and nestle in the bosom of their family. They work hard and are likely to have money squirrelled away in lots of odd corners.’ This means that if anyone in our family wanted to go out and buy a bright pink Porsche and spend all night partying until 3 am. we would have to undo a great many family belief systems!

Part of improving your self esteem is being able to develop the flexibility to step outside of the unhelpful family belief systems.

For example, one person that I worked with was very inhibited by the way her father used to tell her that she would never amount to anything. Whenever she couldn’t manage to do something or things went wrong for her this phrase would trigger in her mind and she would experience feelings of misery, apathy and hopelessness. Once it was in the open she began to challenge this thought whenever it flashed through her mind. To start with it felt as difficult as trying to catch butterflies, but she persevered, and, using other techniques from the course she was soon able to take failures great and small in her stride.

Other things that Self Esteem Unlocked will help you with are Money Beliefs. If your family has the hidden belief that “we have always been poor” or “we never seem to be able to manage money properly; it just slips through our fingers” you may have troubles. Self Esteem Unlocked will show you how to unearth these beliefs and get them out into the open and then how to bust them open and replace them with much more healthy beliefs such as “with hard work, determination, flexibility, initiative and shrewdness I can create for myself an income and lifestyle that I will be proud of.”

Self Esteem Unlocked will help you with your Sex Beliefs. At the moment the dieting industry and the media has got us all by the short and curlies so that the prevailing belief is that unless you are slim and toned you cannot be sexually attractive. What rubbish! Improving your self esteem makes you really enjoy being you and when that happens you believe you are drop dead gorgeous without a shadow of a doubt. And you don’t have to throw all your mirrors away! Self confidence makes you incredibly attractive sexually.

Enjoy the course; it’s one of the most important you will ever read.

Improve your self esteem

admin — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 17:27:19 +0000

Many of the people who have contacted us for information about hypnotherapy and how it can help them are looking for help with improving their self esteem.

The following course is a great tool for helping you to unlock your self esteem and build rock solid self confidence. The two are linked very closely as you will find out at:

Self Esteem Unlocked

We hope you enjoy and benefit from the information contained in this course.

Handbook of professional hypnosis: an advanced course for hypnotherapists and hypnotechnicians (Hardcover)

admin — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 13:58:38 +0000